Hey everyone,
I was wondering if someone could explain the difference between judging someone and giving advice to someone.
Jesus said "First remove the plank from your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother's eye." (Matthew 7:5)
So, does this mean that in order to advise someone on something you have to have completely overcome the situation yourself? For example, let's say you have a gambling problem, but you are trying really hard to stop gambling. Then, you see your friend gambling for the first time. Do you give him advice on not gambling in order to help him, or is this considered judging, and would be considered hypocritical?
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1 Corinthians 15:33 says, "Evil company corrupts good habits."
But isn't labeling a group of people as an "evil company" considered judging?
For example, if you see your friend hanging out with "bad" people, aren't you judging those people that your friend hangs out with? How do you advise someone not to hang out with other people if that's considered judging?
I personally think that when Jesus told us not to judge others, He meant that the only way you can judge someone is if you're being hypocritical at the same time because right after He said that in Matthew 7, He talked about hypocrites. What do you guys think?
Hey everyone,
I was wondering if someone could explain the difference between judging someone and giving advice to someone.
Jesus said "First remove the plank from your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother's eye." (Matthew 7:5)
So, does this mean that in order to advise someone on something you have to have completely overcome the situation yourself? For example, let's say you have a gambling problem, but you are trying really hard to stop gambling. Then, you see your friend gambling for the first time. Do you give him advice on not gambling in order to help him, or is this considered judging, and would be considered hypocritical?
With regards to the example you gave:
If you have a gambling problem and you see someone gambling and say "hey, that's a sin, don't do it." it is hypocritical.
If you say "I myself have a gambling problem, I have fallen into this sin, and I do not want you to go down the same route" then I don't think its hypocritical.
I think the Lord is talking about looking at everyone else's sinfulness rather than your own, not that you have to be sinless in order to loving advice to others.
But even here we have to be careful, so that we don't cause others to stumble by our own bad advice.
advice needs to be contructive, and not a criticism, so that the person receiving can learn
we all judge people unconsciously but its important our actions dont reflect what we are thinking, judging never helps, it often creates conflict and halts any possible relationship
Someone is trying to convince me that fornication is OK, and i just said "no, its a sin" , and they got mad at me cos its "judging them".
I don't care what they do personally, but if they ask me, yes, its wrong.