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hi everyone... i need ur help.. what do u do when ur thinkin about someone n u cant stop thinkin about them.. some one u like.. like usually u dont react this way n its ur first time to react so strongly about someone.. what do u do? u dont see them, u miss them and ur only way of talkin to them is like msn or something... wht do u do if this is something that is REALLY bothering u?? :'( :-\
God Bless :-*
C.A.P.
God Bless :-*
C.A.P.
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i'm not sure how to start with you.about this person, did you meet him only online? and how long have you been talking for? and what made you think about him that way?
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no i didnt meet him online.. i met him at a church retreat.. i've known him for about 2 months.. da reason i feel this way about him is cuz da way he persented himself.. like he was very mature and is a church boy.. he would always give me advice that involved God... he is my age and im very suprized cuz he is very matture, not like most guys my age.. and also he is extreemly nice!!! i think he is different then the other guys i know... i NEVER react this way about any guy but i dunno y i did with him
God Bless :-*
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And even though you say you had a strong connection with this guy, and you really liked the way he presented himself, it’s still not a good reason for you to think constantly about him … that sounds a little obsessive, wouldn’t you agree? It’s highly possible that you’re infatuated with this guy. I mean, for you to think about him constantly, that’s not mentally, emotionally, nor spiritually healthy. If this guy is a true Christian friend as you make him seem, then you probably wouldn’t be thinking of him this way, rather you would be thinking of him as a mentor, a spiritual aid. But the way you’ve presented your feelings towards this guy shows that you’re more interested in what YOU need from him to satisfy your needs (feeling of love), rather than what he can provide for you as a friend (advice).
And if you’re really attracted to his personality, then why would you miss him when you talk to him on msn, I mean, his personality isn’t gone. Specifically, you said, “I miss him” when I don’t see him. That narrows all his good qualities that you’ve admired before, and now, instead of admiring his personality, you’re beginning to be infatuated by his very being. What I mean to say is that you want to convince yourself that this person is spiritual and friendly just so that you can justify your feelings, but, it actually seems like you want a relationship with this guy, and not a close friendship. And this goes back to my first point…what’s the point? What are you expecting to happen with this guy at this moment of your life? Nothing! So why bother instilling these feelings in your mind from the first place?
I hope I’ve given you some insight about this topic; I’m not so knowledgeable myself when it comes to this kind of stuff, so I hope I helped. Take care, GB++
Oh and if you don’t mind me asking, what’s your username stand for?? Unless you’re using it to seal your identity, can you tell me, I’m a little curious!
Maira
i am 16 years old btw.. and im not thinking of dating him what so ever at this age! AND IM STICKING TO THAT!!! im not allowed to date right now, im allowed whe im 18 and i wouldnt do it behind my parents back.. i made a promise to myself that i will wait til then and stuff... i dont think he's 'the one' but da thing is, im very confused by these feelings for him.. i would never tell him that i have these feelings for him and i would never get into a relationship with him right now..
i know what u guys mean by 'waiting' i used to like this guy and i liked him for 3 years and after those 3 years then i realized things about him... so yes for sure im gunna keep it to myself for a very long time but i just need some advice on how to get him off my mind... like thier is nothing what so ever going on between us but i just like him.. and i know its not love.. cuz im too young... i know all that stuff.. i just want ways to stop thinking about him... this feeling is really confusing me... i dunno what to do...
ill tell u guys this.. if he ever wants to meet up, i wouldnt meet up with him alone, i wouldnt lie to my parents about who im meeting and i wouldnt do anything that they wouldnt approve of.. so dont worry, im not thinking of that stuff... to be honest with u.. sometimes when i want to do something like say for ex. clubbing, my parents wont let me so i would have to lie to them right? well i will think about it and then say no cuz i would remember him... he kinda stops me from doing those kinda things for some reason... like its not something that i would wanna tell him i did b4 so i just dont end up doing... we're not as close but we r getting der.. again, no matter what, i would never tell him how i feel about him... just tell me ways i can stop feeling this way and focus more on just a friendship.. i've done it b4 for a friend.. like she went out wit a guy i really liked (she didnt know at that time) so how can i do it for myself??
I hope this helps
God bless,
pray for me
God Bless
C.A.P.
Also, if you find that you’re incapable of doing this, then I would strongly suggest you speak to abouna about this, because after all, he’s far more experienced so he would know how to handle the situation and he'll direct you so that you can handle the situation in a Christian manner.
If I still didn’t answer your question, id be glad to answer it again if you readdress ur question. What you’re going through, ive seen many ppl go through btw, and this is prob the best thing to do (avoiding the person for a while until your emotions settle). I hope I helped, take care GB++
look i really know how u feel. i was in da same situation last yr. like exactly. met hime from church, he was sweet an helped me wif god an all dat stuf. an u want 2 know how u can get over it. wel da truth is from my experience is like u cant. its like dis thing that u feel which u cant control. like when i got over him. i woke up one morning an realised liek ok wait im so over him. how i had no idea. i think its just that i asked for gods guidance and he answered. it was his will. so jus pray an hel help
wel hope i helped
ur sister in christ
marina
plz pray 4 me
God Bless
C.A.P.
but theres really nothing wrong wqith relations but keep it really as friends till u guys get older
i hope i helped
thebrain
yea i stil talk 2 him. were realli good friends i know its hard 2 get over them. it took me 3 yrs. not jokin but it was so unusal like one day i just got over him, dont know how but yea. i never told ani1 an i jus kept it 2 myself an i stil talk 2 him an stuf so yea
god be wif ya
plz pray 4 me
i know its really bad 2 date at this age. no one was sayin dey were gona. they were jus discussing the situation. thanx for ur concern.
k now i have another question... k.. this is not for me tho... k..
~ my friend likes this gurl, they knew each other for a long time and he liked her for about 2 years i believe, she has a boyfriend n it doesnt seem like they will break up.. my friend n her were best friends but then da gurl told him recently that her noyfriend is her best friend n he is just like any other guy (my friend dat is) he's upset cuz she told him dat, he wants to be dat best friend or something more to her not just any other friend... it's really bothering him.. how should he deal with it? what should he do?? plz let me know so i can tell him cuz he's really down about it..
God Bless :-*
C.A.P.
Maria
What makes it worse is its not even are fault its how soceity influences our lives with this stupit emotional love
guys take my word for it if u anybody and have anyfriends thaT DO THIS tell them the mistake that they are making abelive me its better than letting them going out and letting them thhan break up and ruining a friendship
i'm sorry if i was harsh but its happened with my friends a lot and i myself wish i could have changed it but i can't so pleasae don't make the same mistake i made and take my expirence for it
God bless
thebrain
God Bless
C.A.P.
But, i do believe that b/c he’s obsessed that he wants to be closer to her, than in that case, that’s not wanting to be her BEST friend, rather, that’s wanting to be her mate, that’s wanting to fulfill HIS OWN desires. And seeing that she doesn’t feel the same way about him, then AS A FRIEND, he should respect that. Even though this gf/bf stuff is pathetic at this age, if he were really her GOOD friend as you mentioned, than he wouldn’t put her in this situation, he wouldn’t expect her to have feelings for him. Better yet, if he were her close friend, he wouldn’t have had these feelings in the first place, b/c what are the chances that she’s going to like him back… in the end, his friendship will get ruined and he’ll be devastated because it happened from something so meaningless (his infatuation with this girl).
I hope i helped, take care, GB++
God Bless :-*
C.A.P.
God Bless,
Marianne
God Bless :-*
C.A.P.
Everyone wants to give himself completely to someone, to have a deep lasting relationship with another, to be loved thoroughly and exclusively.
But God, to a Christian says, "No, not until you are satisfied, fulfilled, and content with being loved by Me alone; to have an intensely personal and unique relationship with Me. Discovering that only in Me is your satisfaction to be found will you be capable of a perfect human relationship that I have planned for you. You will never be completely united with one another until you are completely united with Me. Exclusive of anyone or anything else, exclusive of any other desire or longing. I want you to stop planning, stop wishing and allow Me to give you the most thrilling plan existing, one that you cannot imagine. I want you to have the best. Please allow Me to give it to you.
You keep watching Me, expecting the greatest things. Keep experiencing the satisfaction, that I Am. Keep listening and learning the things I promise and mean. Be patient, that is all. Don’t be anxious and don’t worry. Don’t look around at all the other things others have gotten or that I have given them. Don’t look at the things you want. You just keep looking off and up to Me or you’ll miss what I want to show you. And then, when you are ready, I will surprise you with a love far more wonderful than you would dream of. You see, until you are ready and until the one I have for you is ready (I am working even at this moment to have both of you ready at the same time) until you both are satisfied with Me and the life I want you to have, you will not be able to experience the love that exemplifies your relationship with Me ... a perfect love.
And dear one, I want you to have this most wonderful love. I want you to see in the flesh a picture of your relationship with Me, and to enjoy perfection and love that only I offer. Know that I love you utterly. I am God Almighty. Believe it and be satisfied."
God Bless,
Pray for me
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