I was very close to my cousin and then she started getting jealous of me ever since i got accepted to medical school and she was rejected (in the USA). Although she'll still be going to medical school but in the Caribbeans instead in the US. I'll be going in the US. She ignores me when i talk to her. She makes fun of me all the time to bring me down. I never never brag about my abilities..i'm very humble..I even apologized to her without any reason. I treat her with so much love and try to act normal, but i can't take it anymore!! I thought being so nice to her would solve the problem but it didn't help. The problem is that she's not a friend that i can just stay away from or just say hi and leave, but she's my own cousin and i see her everyday!! How can i stop her jealousy?? PLEASE HELP!!
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i know we have a culture (not religion) that bases image/status, thus it is the praise of men. however, the praise or even insults of men should not allow us to be happy nor to be upset.
“If you find something good in you, be certainly sure that it is not due to you, but due to God because He alone is ultimately good, perfect and holy as the Lord says: ‘No one is good but One, that is, God.’ (Matthew 19:17)” Again, if you think that it is you who strive to inherit the eternal life, you will fail..." -this quote is from His Holiness Pope Shenouda III (Book: The Release Of The Spirit. Pg 47 and 54) http://www.copticpope.org/books/relspirt.pdf
please make all your needs be known to God in prayer and He will deal with it. Just leave it with Him and He will surely take care of it. The Lord says: "Come to Me all you who labour, and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For My yoke is easy and My burden is light." (Matthew 11:27-30)
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Please pray for me
I was very close to my cousin and then she started getting jealous of me ever since i got accepted to medical school and she was rejected (in the USA). Although she'll still be going to medical school but in the Caribbeans instead in the US. I'll be going in the US. She ignores me when i talk to her. She makes fun of me all the time to bring me down. I never never brag about my abilities..i'm very humble..I even apologized to her without any reason. I treat her with so much love and try to act normal, but i can't take it anymore!! I thought being so nice to her would solve the problem but it didn't help. The problem is that she's not a friend that i can just stay away from or just say hi and leave, but she's my own cousin and i see her everyday!! How can i stop her jealousy?? PLEASE HELP!!
If i were you, I'd tell her that she will at least pick up a carribbean accent and be drinking coconut juice - so she should be thankful for that whilst she's studying medicine in the Carribean.
Tell her that "she'll be doo-in say'll-boatin' and parra-say-llin" whilst poor you, you'll be stuck in the USA.
And here's how:
Tell her that Caribbean countries are so violent and have higher crime rates than the USA that she's bound to get better training in dealing with gunshot wounds, rape, drug additions, violent attacks and beheadings.
That's brilliant experience for a trainee doctor!!!
And don't forget to mention the sail boating and para-sailing.
Randomely mention to her also the following words:
Rum. beach. coconut juice, sun, Bob Marley, Beach boys, taquilla, bacardi with coke, Rum with coke, coconut juice, pina colada, reggae....
I don't think that all of the drinks are a good way to look at this... ;D ;D
Dude, the caribbean is so dangerous. It has very high crime rates.
I really hope she enjoys pina colada and reggae music because the country is extremely dangerous.
God Bless
+ it's not wrong to have a drink once in a while (while of course knowing your limit) is it?
God Bless
It's not wrong, but just not reccommended. Drinking could lead to the sin of gluttony. Some people drink a little for mediacl reasons and such. It just depends on your situation.
tell her if anything is getting her mad at you
i always try that. sometime it helps
this kind of suffering really does make us closer to Jesus, as long as we accept it and ask Him to guide us and teach us His ways. during my last job, one night i was alone in my room crying and feeling sorry for myself, then i remembered the prayer of our Lord 'YOUR will be done on earth as in heaven' and I repeated Jesus' words (Luke 22:42) 'not my will but your be done' I had prayed this before, but this time i was really ready to accept even more suffering even though i thought i couldn't deal with it.
at that exact moment i was aware of this amazing peace (John 14:27) and then i realised that our sufferings are much less than the glory that awaits us in heaven.
another favourite verse of mine during this time was John 16:33, the verse that Anba Boula, the first hermit used to repeat ' in this world you will have trouble, but take courage, for I have overcome the world.' Since then I have courage and peace, and this is worth more to me than an easy job.
so I hope God will change your situation quickly, but if not, you will grow in your faith during your difficult time.
May God give you peace and may He also give peace to all of us who struggle :)
i tried to read most of the comments but i think u might talk to her
tell her if anything is getting her mad at you
i always try that. sometime it helps
Tell her that she should be thankful to God that you are not going to the caribbean given how dangerous it is. One person is enough. But at the same time, you should tell her that you love her and wish her the best, and that you hope she has a great time and comes back safely.
+mahraeel+