[b]Ok, I was thinking about something becuase me and my friends say it a lot. What do you guys think about saying i told you so? Is it ok? Sometimes, when people say it it hurts me, but I'm not sure. If you have any ideas, please post.
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love lots,
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Forever,
Coptic Servent
however if ya talking with ur friends and u seem to disagree and then u turned out to be right..then by allmeans say whatever u want..unless it is down right rude of course... ;D
does anyone else have ideas?
love lots,
CopticChica21
salam :)
Fibo
what is the purpose of saying "told ya so"?
It just makes people feel bad and does nothing to change the situation!
Kristina123
hello
what is the purpose of saying "told ya so"?
It just makes people feel bad and does nothing to change the situation!
Kristina123
i agree just makes things worse i gess
but for things lyk MarMar i think thats fine...
+FROG+
Yeah i dont think saying it is appropriate cause it makes people try to avoid you and not want to talk to you.
WWJD (what would Jesus do?) I dont think he would
saying i told u so makes u sound like u r tryin to be more superior to the other person. its not too nice.
If your friend says something like "its ok we learn from these events and well try to be more careful," your friend is being a true friend, and is showing that they care for you.
Being humble makes you a king (ex. Jesus Christ. The person's example we should be following)
Take a second to pray for me....thank you
"Told yo so" doesn't necessarily mean that you are saying "I'm right, you're wrong", it depends on the tone of voice. "I'm right you're wrong" seem a little arrogant. Conversely, "I warned you, you should heed you're friend’s advice (especially if they're experienced)" is Christian. To rebuke your brother for sinning or doing something wrong in a humble manner is good.
Intentions are important too. If you warn a friend about something wrong, and he or she did not listen, you may tell them "I told you so" because I care about/ Love you." Christians shouldn't judge other when they do wrong, but simply warn them not to do the wrong way in a brotherly fashion.
Those who do not like being chastened should consider pride as factor. Admitting your fault and being humble is much better in the eyes of God then some one who is agitated when he or she is told that what they did is wrong.
Imagine how children would be brought up if they were free to do whatever they liked without consequences. On the other hand imagine if they were brought up very strictly, that they were not given the chance to make mistakes and learn from them, both are harmful methods.
[glow=blue,2,300]"A wise son heeds his father’s instruction, but a scoffer does not listen to rebuke." Proverbs 13:1 [/glow]
In the book of Matthew, Chapter 18, Jesus deals with rebuking a brother:
15 “Moreover if your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault between you and him alone. If he hears you, you have gained your brother. 16 But if he will not hear, take with you one or two more, that ‘by the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may be established.’ 17 And if he refuses to hear them, tell it to the church. But if he refuses even to hear the church, let him be to you like a heathen and a tax collector.
We must also be aware that Jesus said:
[glow=green,2,300]“Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Brother, let me remove the speck that is in your eye,’ when you yourself do not see the plank that is in your own eye? Hypocrite! First remove the plank from your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck that is in your brother’s eye.” Luke 6:42.[/glow]
Offcourse we are not sinless, or perfect. We must be aware of our sins first, and remember them before we go and remind our brother and sisters of theirs; but we should still warn them in true love and care when they are doing the wrong thing.
Because pride is a great sin, and so is judging another.
Love and Peace,
His son