Hi everyone
I just wanted advice on some stuff that I would love to know but can’t find the answer; I want someone to understand me and help.
To begin, I have lots of feelings for this guy in my church. And I really don’t know if he feels the same way about me. He really confuses me. One week I feel that he does have feelings for me and another week I feel like he doesn’t. Either he starts talking to me nonstop or he just ignores me. He really is confusing me and making think too much. What’s making me stop and not really love him so much is that I don’t want myself to feel that he is for me ( which is being selfish) and at the end he would b loving someone else...resulting in me getting hurt badly and wasting my time thinking about someone that wasn’t even considering me...
Sometimes when I sit by myself I start thinking of him I really try not too. (Because as I said I don’t want to go into deeply loving him). And other times I tell myself I don’t want him and I don’t have any more feelings for him.
The only reason I even had feelings for this guy is because he was looking at me and treating me in a way that he wanted to tell me "I love you" everything that he did showed that. But at that time I didn’t really notice home. Until one day when I was sitting in church I saw and started remembering all the stuff he used to do so from that time I liked him. Also he has everything that I looked for in a guy; good personality, great education, has a servant and services in the church that we go to, he’s also a deacon. I even know his whole family and they are really nice and holy people. So all these things made me like him/have feelings for him. And every time I know something new about him my feelings toward increase.
By the way i am still college, but I am mature. And please don't say (not to be rude) that I am still Young, your time will come, because thats what i tell myself. I just want to know what to do and how to deal with him.
Sorry if I wrote too much, and sorry if I confused u, but I am confused myself.
Thanks for your time, please help me I need some serious advice on what to do.
Please pray for me
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However, any decision you want to take (at this point in time) about your possible relationship will be altered by your emotions. The thing is there is a six year gap between you guys, which wouldnt be a big deal if you were say 24 and he was 30, but considering your current ages, it wouldn't really work out too well. Your still either a college freshman/sophomore who is probably more pre-occupied with school work than anything, whilst, he's probably a graduating senior who is concerned about possibly graduate school or a job. Thus, neither of you have enough time for a relationship at this point in time, which will cause strains and problems in the long run. Even if the circumstances permit, that you pursue a relationship by the time you graduate, things might have changed for the both of you [considering stress, ohter potential mates, etc]
As Abounasaresocool, put it, Focus on God first, and then let the rest come through, if it's meant to be, He will make sure it's known. The best thing from a human's standpoint right now, is to purse a friendship. Be friends, go out with groups of people to diners/restaurants, participate in Chruch events. Build a STRONGER friendship between you, him, and GOD! Allow Him to be with you guys!
Lastly, if you want I know there are different priests all over the net who put up their emails, who would be more than willing to answer your questions via email.