i wanna hear botu personal experiences..both positive and negative, if its not much trouble... it might both give us amusement and benefit j/k... lol... BENEFIT.. thanks.. keep em comingg
My best friend is a guy. We've been best friends for a long time, and nothing has evolved between us. Whenever we might joke with eachother, we know it, without having to tell the other about it. We used to be close before as well, but people's talk made us split for awhile because we wanted to prove to those few special selcet people that what they thought was going on was a lie, and they realized it in the end. Now we're tighter than before, and we know that it's ok because the other person brings us closer to god not the other way around.
i think Paulh's post all the way on page 1 pretty much answered the question. It really depends on if you can be that guy's or girl's friend and not have feelings develop. Sometimes, a guy or girl will be friends and one of them will start looking at them differently. Of course, most of the time, it's like Sleepy has explained: you're just tight knit. But in other cases, after a guy and a girl spend a long time being friends, they get to know eachother quite well. And sometimes.. that initmate knowledge brings about a deeper insight into their respective personalities. One of them will go,'I didn't know this about him/her.. they're so beautiful because of this or that... could it work as more between us?'
I think the key is communication. If feelings develop between friends, a respectful (because feelings are precious) and honest talk about it can keep the friendship on course. Of course, it could turn out to be mutual and maybe something more can blossom. So it's definitely about communication and knowing thyself.
sleepy, ur a different case. i guess i should generalize and say it depends on the case for u its ok, i doubt anything will evolve, u 2 r like bro and sis.
well sleepy my first adivce is talk to that person and see what are his feelings? maybe your friends mislead you (not that they will do that but that is still a possiblity) Then depending on that out come you talk to that person and clear everything up with him. you HAVE to face that person in order to become friends with or he will keep getting wrong sgnials you HAVE to clear things out first befor being friends
I don't know what he thinks of me as....I believe that it's as a best friend, but at the same time, I love him as my brother so mush that I would never want to mislead him...
Actually, to tell you the truth about the whole situation, he used to like me before we became so close, but he gradually lost his crush for me. We have been best friends for a long time now, and many things have gone on in his life that would prevent him from liking me again...I'd rather not say....but a few of my friends are convinced that he may like me again, and tha twe need to talk about it, but I fear that we may lose the friendship we have if it goes the wrong way, so, God help me with this decision, I think that I'm just going to leave him be and break my friendship with him....
well u c.....4 u pple who noe me..im starting a lecture here lol.....no seriously...i think this topic has been brought up so many times....i think theres nothing rong with this....BUT....it mite lead to something unexpected even if we are carful....y not just have them as friends that can b ther wen u need them....but pple take things the wrong way somtimes and y put urself in that position?!?!?! ~*queeny*~
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sleepy
ok, i decide i take side of the winning party, u guys decide which one that is hahah
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~Anyway~
Back to the topic of friends and feelings, and them mixing..
sleepy
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I think the key is communication. If feelings develop between friends, a respectful (because feelings are precious) and honest talk about it can keep the friendship on course. Of course, it could turn out to be mutual and maybe something more can blossom. So it's definitely about communication and knowing thyself.
Mina.
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You didn't know that this person liked you till your other friend told you....
sleepy
for u its ok, i doubt anything will evolve, u 2 r like bro and sis.
any other comments?? lol
sleepy
Then depending on that out come you talk to that person and clear everything up with him.
you HAVE to face that person in order to become friends with or he will keep getting wrong sgnials you HAVE to clear things out first befor being friends
sleepy
Have you and this guy talked about this openly? It seems like you're both tiptoeing to avoid addressing the situation.
Shola7
sleepy
Many things have been going on to point in that direction, you just don't know...
sleepy
~*queeny*~